Bridesmaid Burnout: Let’s Talk About It

Written By Samantha Katz

Let’s set the scene: You say yes to being in the bridal party. You’re honored. You loveee her. You meannn it.

Cut to six months later: you're three thousand text messages deep, already down $1,500, and Googling “how to fake your own death before a destination Bachelorette.”

You may be suffering from Bridesmaid Burnout. Sorry, but you are not entitled to financial compensation.

It’s when your entire social life is wedding-related (and it’s not even your wedding!).
It’s realizing your bride bestie has eight events, and you’re expected at all of them.
It’s loving her so much, but also thinking:

“If I have to spend another second or dollar celebrating her, I am going to collapse.”

And you probably have more than one bride bestie. So this, x100.

And then there's the Bachelorette Party.

… this is when Bridesmaid Burnout really hits (and where Club Bach comes in…)

Bach Parties can be amazing. They can also be ✨literally insane✨. Especially when:

  • The bride wants to go international (Passport renewal? Million-dollar flight?)

  • There’s a theme for every second and five coordinating outfits to fit into a carry-on

  • There’s no goody bag. Not even a Liquid IV.

  • You’re expected to take off work, fly across the country, drop $200 on dinner with strangers… and act grateful for it

Make it make sense!!!

I’ve been there. That’s part of the reason I started Club Bach. Not for the brides, but for the ones behind the scenes.

Once upon a time, I went on a Bachelorette Trip that cost me over $2,000, while I was a student working part-time. The villa had no AC. There were no activities, no planning, no thoughtful touches. It was really just one overpriced dinner that didn’t even leave me full.

I want to cry thinking about it, even still.

The thing is, Bachelorette Parties don’t have to be the worst. They can actually be the best if they’re done right.

I plan them for a living now. And I’m literally counting down the days until I get to plan mine. Of course, I want to marry my boyfriend. But also, I just really want my Bachelorette Party.

If you’re reading this as a MOH (or bridesmaid), you do have the power to make it great. And less stressful.

Here are a few things I wish more people said out loud:

1. You’re allowed to say no.

Not everyone can go into debt for a party. Don’t go if you can’t. Skip the in-villa massage if you can’t. Take the cheaper flight if you have to, even if you arrive early or leave late.
And if we are spending money, can we at least make it fun?

2. Set expectations early.

Ask your bride what actually matters to her.
An international trip? Matching tattoos? One perfect dinner? Pls get real.

She might not need a full weekend-long production. You can give her an amazing party, while still being realistic. But if she does want it all, that’s fine too, but let her know covering the cost for a few of the extras would go a long way. She might be totally open to it. She just hasn’t been asked. That’s something I learned when I worked in fundraising— the biggest reason people don’t give is because they were never asked! You love your bride, she is the best, so she may be excited to pay for things that would better the party!

3. Bach trips are not just for the bride.

This is a group experience. The guests giving their time and money matter too.

Plan stuff people actually want to do.
Include time to chill.
Let there be snacks. Let there be joy.

This whole thing should feel fun.
It should feel like a celebration, not an emotional (and financial) rollercoaster.

Where Club Bach Comes In:

At Club Bach, we help you plan Bachelorette Parties that don’t suck. Because we’ve been the overwhelmed bridesmaid, the exhausted MOH, and the girl texting her mom while crying from another country in a $$$$ villa with no AC.


We know that when a Bach Party is done right, it’s ~magic~. Sunset dinners, silly moments you’ll talk about for years, and the best time with the best girls.
The right trip isn’t the one you remember for the financial stress—it’s the one you remember because it was actually fun.


 That’s what we build at Club Bach: thoughtful, custom weekends that work. We know what to skip, what to spend on, and how to plan a trip everyone’s excited for.

Just a few of the things we help MOHs do:

  • Secure villas at unbeatable and exclusive prices

  • Build itineraries that actually work (we make the spreadsheets, so you don’t have to)

  • Add thoughtful touches like custom invites, goody bags, and book extras that fit the budget

  • Be the MVP MOH

Let’s kill the Burnout, not the Bach.

We are soooo excited to plan with you!

XO, Sam

Samantha Katz